So be it. Bargaining away defenses is insanity. And it's not like they haven't built defenses of their own.
Not when it enables marked reductions in offensive nuclear potential, as has happened in the past. SALT & START I were only possible in connection with the ABM Treaty - START I slashed the strategic nuclear threat from Russia by over 70%. START II, which collapsed over the US leaving ABM, would have seen stricter limitations than its replacements SORT & New START. What percentage of the Russian arsenal can US BMD hope to knock down? Isn't the surest defence one which takes hundreds of warheads out of existence without firing a shot (and saves billions of dollars on top)?
The defences Russia already has would be treaty compliant, the future S-500 (which could become something of a road-mobile Aegis-BMD with ASAT & A-ICBM capability) is a response. SM-3 has been around for more than 15 years at this point!
Now, with the economic parameters as lopsided as they are, simply hanging Russia out to dry is a viable course of action in theory. In the short to mid term it would be a rough ride, but long term the US should prevail. Problem is, arms control does not happen in a vacuum: Russia is not the only threat and an opponent with considerably more economic clout is watching US interactions on this subject closely.
The PRC has always been reserved on this topic, and US credibility in arms control has been dealt a number of fresh blows in the past 5 years. Never mind Russia, what do you think the chances are of ever entering into arms control measures with Beijing if they see the US treat the Russians like that?